Dear daughters

Here are some books I have read and loved…

• Love Stories by Trent Dalton
• The Gifts of Imperfection- Brene Brown
• Rich Dad, Poor Dad – Robert T Kiyosaki
• She Means Business – Carrie Green
• Bridge Burning – Kitty Flanagan
• The Seat of the Soul – Gary Zukav
• Nothing Bad Ever Happens Here – Heather Rose
• Untamed – Glennon Doyle
• Big Magic – Elizabeth Gilbert
• Think and Grow Rich – Napoleon Hill
• Screw Business as Usual – Richard Branson
• Reasons to Stay Alive – Matt Haig
• Happy Never After – Jill Stark
• Ugly Love – Colleen Hoover
• The Husband’s Secret – Liane Moriarty
• Nice Girls Don’t Get Rich – Lois P. Frankel
• Women Don’t Owe You Pretty – Florence Given
• The 5 Love Languages – Gary Chapman
• A Gentle Reminder- Bianca Sparacino

I hope you get from these books as much as I did

I love you

Mum xx

Dear daughters,

There is very little you can go through in life that I won’t understand.

– I have grown up with an emotionally abusive father

– I suffered from agoraphobia, panic attacks and anxiety so bad that I missed most of my final year at school

– I was raped

– I tried to commit suicide

– I lost my mum when I was 21

– my father disowned me

– I went bankrupt

– I survived domestic violence

– I have been sued

– I have been divorced

I have hit rock bottom many times and every time I have come back stronger. I’m not telling you all this so you feel sorry for me or to shock you. I am telling you so you know you can come to me with anything and I will have empathy and understanding for you.

At times you will feel like you can’t keep going, it will all feel too hard but trust me, it’s worth getting up for. The good will be worth going through the bad. You three kids are my reward for going through hard times.

Please know whether I am earth side or in heaven, I will do everything I can to help get you through. Reach for me… I will be there.

Love always, mum xxx

I wanted to share this with you as it is very true…

Love mum xx

Dear daughters,

I just finished the most beautiful session with my psychologist. It was all about worth and whether someone else’s opinion of you can affect your core worth.

Kylie, my psychologist told me this story and I want to share it with you so you can hold it in your heart too…

There was a world famous violinist. He would play massive theatres and people would pay big money to travel from far and wide to see him play. One day he went in to the subway and was busking. Not one person stopped to listen to him, not a dollar was put in his violin case. But does this change whether his talent was still there and whether he was truly worthy? No. In the subway he was in the wrong setting, in amongst the wrong people who were so busy with their own things that they could not stop long enough to hear his talent or see his worth.

The lessons here are:

⁃ You are worthy no matter what other people think or see. Their opinions of you do not change your talent/worth

⁃ If your worth is not being seen, it is probably because you are surrounded by the wrong people

I hope I have explained this well and portrayed the lessons.

This single story has redefined for me, how I see my worth.

Please know that worth is not something you need to earn or work hard to get. You are worthy just by being you. Worthy of respect and love and all the good things in life. If you are not getting these things from those around you, find your theatres/environments and those people who will see and appreciate your worth.

I love you with all my heart

Mum xx

Dear daughters

My piece of advice for your married life… “the two of you will grow and change in to different versions of yourselves over the years. The key to a long marriage is choosing to fall in love over and over again with each new version of the other person”.

All my love, Mum xo

Dear daughters,

Nothing you can ever do will make me stop loving you unconditionally. I was born to be your mother. To be your biggest fan and your greatest cheerleader. I promise to always be your safe haven.

No matter what age you are, you can always come home. When life gets too much, come home. I will be the one place you can go and feel completely free to fall apart and I will hold it all together until you have the strength to get up and keep going. You will never be on your own while I am on this earth,

I love you with everything I have, unconditionally and forever.

Xo Mum

Dear daughters

Just writing to share 5 valuable life lessons

1. Choose your battles. Most arguments aren’t worth it

2. Don’t be a doormat. You can be assertive and kind at the same time.

3. Make sure the people in your life know how much you love them. Tell them too much!

4. You cannot please everyone. Take time to get clear on what matters to you.

5. Trust your intuition when something doesn’t feel right.

Love mum

Dear daughters

As a young mum I used to judge how I was doing against others. A child nurse told me to stop because the standard I was comparing myself to didn’t and still doesn’t exist.

She told me the story of the Swann…

We are all Swann… on the surface we are effortlessly gliding along but underneath the surface we are all kicking like shit to stay afloat.

Remember this always when you judge yourself against others. We all struggle x

Love mum

Dear daughters

I wish that parenting was like maths, there were set formulas to get exact answers. Everything is clear cut, right or wrong. But it’s not, it’s like doing an English assignment. There are a million different ways to write the assignment and all have strengths and flaws in them. It can also be interpreted differently by every person.

There is no one single right way to parent your child/ren. There are many different options and none of them are 100% perfect or right. No matter what you choose, the decision is going to have positives and negatives. It makes parenting one big guessing game with your gut instinct as your only guide. It is a challenge every single day but it is also the greatest thing you will ever experience.

Being a parent is exhilarating and exhausting, stressful and confusing, rewarding and addictive, it’s full of love and laughing and crying and pain. Nothing compares to it. Nothing is anywhere near as amazing. It is messy and imperfect and I wish for you to experience it too.

My only piece of advice to get your though is to follow your gut always. You know what’s best for you and your child/ren.

Love always, mum xx

Dear daughters

This poem sums up life beautifully well…

“Marriage is hard. Divorce is hard. Choose your hard.
Obesity is hard. Being fit is hard. Choose your hard.
Being in debt is hard. Being financially disciplined is hard. Choose your hard.
Communication is hard. Not communicating is hard. Choose your hard.
Life will never be easy. It will always be hard. But we can choose our hard. Pick wisely.”

– Author Unknown

I will be here to help you choose your hard xx

Love from mum