Dear daughters,
In life you are going to fall. I wish I could prevent this more than anything but it is out of my control. So I will instead, teach you to be your own hero. It is something I have only recently learned.
Years ago a friend of mine sent me an inspirational quote that said “a bird doesn’t fear the branch under him breaking as he has faith in the strength of his own wings”. I did not understand… until now.
As I grew up I expected my mum to catch me if I fell. I expected her to save me whenever I needed it. Then she died and my world under me crumbled. I expected my dad to save me, he never did. So I looked for a boy to come along and save me, he never did. So I looked to friends to come save me, they never did.
Then over the years I went through break ups, depression, anxiety, abusive relationships, toxic friendships, failed marriages, flailing careers. And each time I looked for that hero to come along and save me. I look for someone externally to make my world better again. But I never found that person.
The problem was that any time I did expect external heroes, they were like the branch in the quote. They may have held me for a little while but sooner or later, they broke.
Recently I stopped looking externally. I looked internally at me. I reflected on my life and all the hard times and even though through each of these I was consciously looking for another as my hero… subconsciously my soul was being my hero and tirelessly working to save me.
Each time my world has crumbled under me, I have saved myself!
This must be true as no one else saved me and I am still standing and living an improved life. I recovered each and every time.
And you know what this realisation has given me? Power! Power to know that 100% of the time when life crumbles or a branch breaks, I will be there to save myself. I am my own most reliable hero.
This is empowering and a lesson I hope you learn from me early on in life.
Rely on your own wings my beautiful girls! And forever you can fly x
All my love,
Mum xx
Dear daughters 